My story

So, why a holistic life coach and why now?

A couple of years ago I found myself doing a job that sounded great and exciting… lots of responsibility, totally in my ‘field of genius’, great money and prestige in the title. I worked hard six days a week, was creative and dedicated however something felt off. I began to doubt myself, my abilities, my effectiveness in my role. I worked harder, began being more self-critical. As a consequence, I made little time for myself and relaxation became elusive. I thought about work night and day and when I found myself not thinking of it, I felt guilty. I would go for a walk or do other things that I used to like but I was so confused and consumed by work.

My sleep became interrupted and in the middle of the year I became ill – physically and mentally. I pretended my way through the days. I’d stopped listening to my intuition and I was determined to ‘fix it’. I worked harder and put on a brave face. I told myself the job I had was a really important one and I could do it. It was so my perfect job!

But that was a myth. Every day felt like hard work, and I get that some parts of every job require work – some days are boring and tedious. My problem was deeper… despite me being useful and effective in the role, much of the job didn’t have a purpose that I valued and I had no balance in my days. So much of my life had become this job and so I found myself living a life that had no purpose and no value to me. Not to say that it wasn’t an important job, it was and is. It was just out of alignment for me.

After long chats with my husband, family and a couple of trusted friends who had known me and my skills for many years, I resigned from the position. What a relief! It wasn’t an easy decision as I am definitely no quitter but for my health I had no choice. The guilt I felt about even quitting was an indication of how far away from myself I had moved.

So, I had to start again. I was determined to define where I was now - physically, mentally and spiritually.

I was one of the lucky ones.  I had people around me who loved me and reflected back to me what my strengths were. But I also took action. I read, I journaled, I consciously focused on what I was grateful for. It was really hard at first but I gradually began to wake up. The hardest thing I had to come to terms with, was that I hadn’t listened to my intuition. I needed to get back to my authentic self and trust that my mind, body and spirit could speak for themselves. I just had to tune in again.

According to my closest friends, this was something they had always admired in me. The fact that I listened to myself, made room for my own needs, understanding that this was the best way to serve others. This experience has now given me my purpose… to help other women to look at what’s out of alignment in their current situation and find balance and peace.

Many women find themselves in a similar situation but they don't even realise it.  They just know that how they feel isn't comfortable and life is not fun. They made important life decisions based on what they believed society expects of them or where they think they should be in life. They work harder, they exercise more, they eat more, they eat less, they destroy relationships, they self-sabotage, they drink alcohol, they party more, they have more luxury holidays, they buy more - but what they need is less distraction and more of what they value.

Most importantly they need to get unstuck and find themselves again. While they want to feel different, they don’t know where to begin.

So, that brings me to where I am now. I want to serve others by helping women manage stress, get clear about who they are and instead of doing more, help them become more themselves. Every women deserves a life that doesn't always feel like hard work - a life of meaning, joy and light.

Have a beautiful day, Kate.